Saturday, September 01, 2007

Online - Oh no.

So my friend Nikki tells me to get online - NOW. She's recently joined Match and was searching for single guys active within 24 hours ... hmmm. There's my boyfriend. Yup, right there, active with in 24. Nothing like that to ruin your day.

To make matters worse, his criteria - not me. What the f*ck?!

Now I get to the point where I decide what the hell to do. Nikki offers to hit on him (they've never met), I turned her down. That would be a total show of not trusting, and I don't want to know his answer to her questions. The second option is to bring it up - something I can't really see myself doing. I could ignore it, but then I'll just sit here wondering.

Son of a bitch.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

You should have Nikki hit on him -it's no longer a trust issue, you weren't looking & didn't expect to find him there. Now you need to know his intentions and this is probably the only way to truly know:(

Milwaukee Girl said...

The thought has crossed my mind, but I still feel like I should maybe just say, "So Nikki's on Match and she found you" and laugh it off... but now I'm just doubting everything.

Anonymous said...

Considering what his ex told you, how could you not be doubting? It sounds like he's looking for other opportunities and that just friggin blows:(

Anonymous said...

Aside from the shady factor of having an online profile up on a dating website when you claim to be in a relationship, Match.com is a PAY-for dating website, and it's not cheap. I think it's around $30/month. Unless the BF is rolling in the green, very few people would pay $30/month to not actively use an online dating service. If it were a free dating website, he might have just forgotten to take his profile down and received notice that someone contact him and logged in to check it out. You don't just forget to cancel a pay-for service like that. I think having your friend send him an email through Match is a great idea. You shouldn't worry about showing distrust. This is an really shady act that warrants your doubt for extremely obvious reasons. You shouldn't doubt yourself for HIS sketchy behavior. This is entirely his fault.

Milwaukee Girl said...

When every guy you've been with has always cheated, you kind of don't want to know the response. I'm thinking that just walking away might be the better option. For some reason I'm terrified that it'll be laced with quams about how lonely he's been, etc.

Anonymous said...

DAMN! He did THAT! I'm feeling for you. I knew this guy would screw you in the end, but I figured the relationship would last at least a year!

Anonymous said...

You should have known it when he expressed his desire to plow your buttpipe.

Anonymous said...

Don't worry MG! Seriously. I used to be on match and then I met my g/f. They still send me emails every now and again. Match IS a pay service, but you can still have an account for free and look at pics. It's possible he opened their email and clicked on a link by accident, which would bring him directly to his profile, or maybe he just likes looking at girls. It doesn't necessarily mean he's LOOKING for girls

Anonymous said...

:( I would get on Match with my friend and send him some emails, chat - whatever and see if he would meet me (not your friend) then show up and see what he has to say then.... But that's me, I'm evil that way. Then I would drop him so fast and find someone else to fuck.